Best Ways to Boost Your Confidence

If there’s one thing that all women have in common, I would venture to say that it’s confidence. More specifically, there is room to grow in our confidence.

As sad as it is, I’ve never met a woman who didn’t beat herself up or was too hard on herself. We women are pretty good at being hard on ourselves.

So today, let’s focus on building ourselves back up. We all need it! You know that feeling when you’re wearing a kick-ass outfit and feel like you can conquer the world?

I want you to feel that way every day, 24 hours a day. Here’s how you can start!

Do What Makes You Happy

First and foremost, let’s get this out of the way. It would be best to do whatever you like to feel confident. For example, I love makeup. I feel beyond confident when my highlighter is gleaming to the heavens, my lips are overlined, and my brows are Instagram-worthy.

And it has nothing to do with “covering up” who I am or masking my bare face. I feel confident when I’ve got a work of art on my face.

So, if your vice is makeup, wear it! If unicorns make you feel confident, flaunt them! Don’t worry about what other people say or think. If it makes you happy and confident, you do you boo.

Get Strong

I fully believe that one of the biggest confidence boosters for women is being strong. Feel free to take this as either literal strength or figurative strength—or both! Being both physically and emotionally strong are awesome ways to be a confident woman.

As far as physical strength is concerned, I adore doing yoga to tone and strengthen. If you’re too nervous to try out a class in a studio, there are many great online options. Check out Yoga Download if you don’t know where to start. Their classes are all online, and you can pick from a ton of different categories.

Yoga gives me a different kind of strength than just weightlifting. It teaches you to control your body and, more importantly, control your mind.

Once you conquer your mind, there’s nothing you can’t do! Nothing will make you feel more confident than that! Plus, it’s cool to do some excellent yoga poses that make people wonder if you’re secretly Wonder Woman.

If you’re looking for emotional strength, you could try meditation or even some books. I feel like an empowered boss lady after reading practically anything by Brene Brown. Check out her work, and you won’t be disappointed!

Be Kind

I have this long-standing belief that people are actually just insecure people. You don’t need to tear other people down if you’re confident in yourself.

So always be kind. Lift other people. Give out (genuine) compliments like Skittles. Leave a 30% tip instead of 20%.

Be understanding when the cashier rings up your bananas wrong and has to abort the entire transaction and start over. Being an inherently kind person will lead you to be more confident. When you know that you’re a good person who puts good into the world, you start to feel pretty…well…good about yourself!

Create an “I Love Me” List

Have you ever done one of those activities where you sit against a whiteboard, and people come up and write nice things around you? And then you get to step back and read them all?

It makes you feel so good about yourself and is a great way to boost your confidence! So you’re going to make one of those for yourself. Yup, seriously.

Get out some paper and write down everything about yourself that you love. Everything. It can be as tiny as “I like the yellow specks in my eye color” to something as meaningful as “I have a big heart.”

Spend some time reflecting on what makes you feel good about yourself. Once you’re done, tuck your list away for a rainy, un-confident day. Then pull it out and read it for a confidence boost!

Be Assertive

Ok, I’ll admit, I’m probably one of the most unassertive people in the world. Being assertive is problematic if it’s not built into your personality. But I’ve learned that it starts with baby steps.

You might not always be the person to step up and lead a group of 200 volunteers. You can begin by being the first person to speak when your boss says, “What ideas do you have?” in your next meeting.

It is being assertive and speaking up for someone who may be speaking up for themselves. Be the person who goes and sits next to a Muslim woman who is being bullied on the bus.

There are a million small ways to be assertive that will all add up to one very assertive, kick-butt woman who radiates confidence!

It’s the Little Things

I’m about to suggest something that you might think is totally lame. But don’t knock it ‘till you try it! When you need a confidence boost, do something you know you’re good at.

Do you know what my mini-confidence boost is? Typing tests.

Yup, seriously. I am a really fast typist – usually between 90-100 words per minute (the average typing speed is about 40 words per minute). So when I need a confidence boost, I get on a typing test website and type my little fingers off for a minute.

Seeing that “92 words per minute” is a little pick-me-up, however lame it might make me sound! Find your little skill that you’re good at.

Maybe you can fit twice as many dishes in the dishwasher as your roommate because of your mad Tetris. Perhaps you have a song memorized on the ukulele.

Whatever your little skill is, don’t be afraid to bust it out when you need to feel confident. It helps, I promise!

Hopefully, these will inspire you to be a more confident woman. Pick and choose one or two confidence boosters to tackle this month and come back in a few weeks to choose some more.

With time, you’ll see something to boost your confidence and feel much more inherently confident, which is fantastic!

What other tips and tricks do you have to feel confident? Share in the comments below!