I love getting it on with my husband. I am not an insecure woman and sex is definitely not a problem for me. But like every woman, I’m cursed with the inability to shut off my mind. Especially when my hubby tries to touch my butt.
Anal sex has forever been off the table in my two-year relationship with my man. I don’t have a problem with it, per se, but I have heard horror stories from my mother and my friends. And since then, it’s been something my husband is not allowed to bring up or ask for.
I know many women enjoy anal, and that’s awesome! But for me, that particular hole always tightens up when his hand roams down my back.
So when I’m in bed with my man and things are heating up, my mind is going. He starts to make the move, and as his hand lingers, this is my thought process.
15 Things I think About When He Wants To Touch My Butt
- His hand is on my butt. No big deal. He could just be paying it some attention and then things will go back to normal.
- Uh oh, he’s squeezing it. He’s normally a boob guy. Why is he still paying so much attention to it?
- It is feeling like this is going to turn into a thing. Am I ready for this?
- Wait a minute, is it clean? Oh god, it’s so freaking bright in the room. If I can see everything, he can definitely see everything.
- When was the last time I showered? I came home early yesterday and plopped down on the couch. Do I stink? Does it stink?
- Maybe I’m being too “anal.” Pun absolutely intended
- Oh man, he’s putting a finger in. When was the last time cut his nails?
- Ouch, it’s been a while since he’s cut his nails.
- I haven’t “emptied” myself this morning. Can he feel it? Is that even something that could happen? Is it possible his thumb could be touching my…I can’t even think it.
- What if his finger is dirty?
- Then again, this isn’t some rando. I’m fooling around with someone in the back seat of his car. This is my husband, and if I can’t trust my body with him, then who?
- I should give it a try! If he promises to be gentle.
- Damn, his thumb is really going for it. And that hangnail isn’t doing me any favors. And if his thumb feels tight, I can only imagine what his…well…is going to do to me.
- Has my mind changed?
- Whoa, that does not feel nice. Nope. My mind hasn’t changed. Finger out, climbing off.
If this makes me a prude, I’m totally okay with it. It’s not that I’m unwilling to try butt stuff ever, it’s just not in the cards yet.
There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right moment to try something you’re unsure of. You should always have an enthusiastic and ongoing “YES!” during sex. And if your partner is pressuring you (thank you Husband for being a gentleman), you need to have a conversation with your partner before it becomes a problem.
I know there are other confident millennials out there who haven’t experienced anal either, and that’s okay! What are your thoughts though? Is the back door an option? Or is it an exit only? Let me know in the comments.