The idea of “happily ever after” sounds great, doesn’t it? You meet someone and fall head over heels in love with them. Before you know, they fit into your life like the last missing piece of a jigsaw puzzle. And then you blissfully spend the rest of your lives together. Except, that’s often too good to be true. There’s often something that goes wrong, including relationship, incompatibilities, or your partner cheating on you.
In real life, relationships are to maintain. Even if you find your soulmate, you’re bound to have fights, arguments, and other problems in your relationship. The sad part is that sometimes these issues can cause significant damage to your relationship.
Enter infidelity. While it’s often a dealbreaker in most relationships, it’s also becoming increasingly common. In fact, 70% of unmarried couples have to deal with infidelity in their relationship. Once you start suspecting that your partner is cheating on you, it’s easy for your mind to go into overdrive.
Instead of analyzing the situation, you might start imagining the worst consequences. This, in turn, can cause more problems between you and your partner. Needless to say, it can take a toll on your well-being.
The Reality of Infidelity
Here’s the thing about infidelity: unless your partner confesses to you, it’s very difficult to know for sure whether they’re cheating on you. Just because they’ve suddenly become emotionally aloof, it doesn’t mean they’re cheating on you.
Sure, you can hire a private detective to snoop around your partner and track their whereabouts. But that’s hardly a practical solution. The only other alternative is to directly confront your partner. But before doing that it’s important for you to understand whether they’re going through any major professional or personal challenges.
If you have an inkling that your significant other is cheating on you, here are a few ways you to gain more clarity on the situation.
Evaluate Your Relationship
Has your partner become emotionally and physically distant all of a sudden? Or have they started showering you with expensive and fancy gifts out of the blue? Do they tend to text or talk on the phone to someone until the wee hours of the night? Are they going on too many business trips too often?
It’s important that you answer these questions and find out why you think your partner is cheating on you. Accusing them of having an affair with someone else is a big deal. Before you do that, you need to take a closer look at your relationship and find out what’s causing you to suspect infidelity.
You also need to understand whether the doubts and suspicions are a result of your own insecurities. Perhaps they’re just going through a particularly tough work week and you’re losing your mind for no good reason. Or maybe your mental health is dipping for another reason and you are focusing your energy on your relationship instead of yourself.
It’s important to consider all these things before you go on a deep dive to find out whether your SO is being unfaithful.
Monitor Your Partner’s Habits & Routine
One of the first signs of infidelity is when your partner starts doing something totally out of character. For instance, they might have become obsessed with how they look, when before it was not a big deal.
Similarly, pay attention if they’ve suddenly started doing something that they never enjoyed before. If they never enjoyed traveling but have been going on several solo trips lately, it could be a cause for concern.
Also, you need to watch out for any unusual changes in your partner’s routine. Have they started working late more frequently? This can be uncharacteristic for them if they always made it a point to come back home on time. Or maybe they’re suddenly forgetting important events such as birthdays and anniversaries. These could be warning signs of infidelity.
Track Their Expenses
Infidelity is expensive. Period. From gifts and dinner dates to hotel rooms and fancy vacations—the costs of having a secret affair can add up pretty quickly. If your partner is cheating on you, it’s most likely going to reflect in their credit card bills and bank statements.
If you have joint accounts with your partner (and they’re silly enough to use them when cheating), it’s easy to check up on them. If not, you might pause and think about this. Meddling in your partner’s finances isn’t always the right thing; however, sometimes you may not have a choice.
Watch out for any major unexplained or unplanned expenses on their credit card or bank account. If you try to talk to them and they end up avoiding the topic or making a lame excuse, chances are they’re guilty of something.
Check Their Technology Usage
If your partner suddenly set a password on their phone when they never did before, that could be a red flag. Perhaps they become angry if you use their laptop without asking them first. Or, they get jumpy when you ask to use their phone, there might be something they don’t want you to see.
While these things happen for a number of reasons, they could also be subtle signs of infidelity.
Consult a Psychic
If you’re into this kind of thing, you might consider consulting a psychic for the answers you seek. A psychic reader won’t tell you for sure whether your partner is cheating on you. Instead, they give you an insight into the future course of your relationship and help you understand how things might unfold.
In the worst case, a psychic reading session can help you understand the larger purpose behind whatever is happening in your relationship. For instance, you can use tarot cards that predict cheating to validate your fears and find out whether you should be alarmed.
Talk to Your Friends & Family
Sometimes, just voicing your concerns out loud to a trusted friend can help you understand whether your suspicions are justified. A friend or family member will have an outsider’s perspective of your relationship. It might be easier for them to steer you in the right direction and find a better way to deal with the situation.
Are there any other signs of infidelity that folks should watch out for? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.