One of the main reasons I chose the college I am going to is because I wanted some distance between me and my parents and everything I was used to. I wanted to get out of my comfort zone so I wouldn’t be held back. Up until now, it’s been a great experience, and I have been able to open up more without relying on my old friends. This summer I went back to my hometown for the first time in two years and it was completely different from what I had expected. After talking to friends who have moved back home, I realized the majority of us who move back home will experience a strange discomfort in a place where we were once the most comfortable.
College is like moving to a foreign country and when you return, even if you don’t realize it, you’re a considerably changed person. You’ve grown, and the people you left have too. But being in the same environment that you lived in for years, if not your whole life, while confronting these changes, confuses things. You may not be the same person you were in high school but that’s who everyone is expecting you to be. It’s sad, but just hanging out with some of your high school best friends will make you feel uncomfortable and forced.
It will be an adjustment for you and your parents. Again, they are expecting the same child who left to be back. Where as, you have been living as an adult without them. Depending on your parents, they will either baby you or restrict you. Either way, they will expect you to just accept this, and it may be a long road before finding a mutual understanding between yourself and your parents. You are still in their house, but you are no longer completely reliant on them. If you want to find independence from your parents and prevent arguments, you can do so by finding small temporary jobs that will help you get on your feet
For some, moving back home may be as big of an adjustment as moving away to college was with less of an adventurous feeling and more of a restrained feeling. Of course, you will still hang out with some of your old friends, but you shouldn’t force yourself to be friends if you have drifted apart. You eventually have to find a new way to live in an old environment by finding new things to do and new people to be with.