Every girl knows there are many complications when it comes to dating, besides what you are going to wear or how your hair looks. The question is: when should your conversations become more than just the typical “getting to know you questions?” Most people don’t share their political or religious beliefs on the first date, because it would be a little overwhelming.
A study conducted and co-authored by Brown University’s political scientist Rose McDermott shows that people using online dating websites were more likely to admit they were a little overweight rather than state their political beliefs. Why is the American culture so scared to admit their political beliefs? I believe that we are all afraid of the judgment we might incur.
The study also showed that while being single and dating as a way to just get to know people, sharing the same political beliefs is not as important. However when it comes to choosing a mate, political beliefs become very important because women and men want to ensure compatibility and also raise their children with a shared political belief. So, when should you share your political beliefs with a date?
Not on A First Date
A first date, as stated before, is a time to get to know one another. Usually, a girl can tell from the first date how their date might lean politically or religiously. The trick is to not explicitly come out and say which party you identify with more. Nor ask him straightforwardly which party he identifies with. Get to know the person and soon you will be able to put the pieces together. Since you are just trying to meet new people, you don’t want to instantly disregard anyone who has a different belief than you.
Get to Know the Other Side
If you decide to be in a relationship with someone who has different beliefs, don’t just write them off without hearing their opinions. We can all learn from those around us. If you accept his beliefs and are willing to agree to disagree then a healthy relationship could work out. However, when different beliefs start to cause disagreements and end up making the relationship more complicated than fun, it might be time to break it off. Keep an open mind, until you fully know that a relationship will not work out.
When It Starts to Get Serious
After you have gone on a couple more dates and you feel that these dates might eventually turn into a relationship, I believe it is good to talk about political beliefs. This is when things get a little more complicated in a relationship. Political and religious beliefs are certainly things that can make or break a relationship. If you want to have a successful long-term relationship, you must be able to talk about religion and politics, especially when you are trying to start a life together.
Some people may give you the advice to instantly write of a person who shares different political beliefs than you, but I believe we can learn from another person’s perspective and hey, if it doesn’t work out romantically maybe you can stay friends? No side is completely right or wrong, so always listen to their side.