Thinking about the future is something that crosses the mind of all millennials. We wonder who will we be when we grow up (which in all honesty is a question I will be asking myself way after I become an adult), what are our big kid goals, and who will still be in our lives to see the process. I personally am one that constantly thinks about my future and the ways in which my actions today will affect my tomorrow. So in my 23 years of living, I want to share some tips that will help you learn to be nicer to your future self.
Learn from the Past
I am a big believer that an occasion or person was put in your life so that you could learn from it. Take notes from your past and see what went wrong and how this has helped morphed you into the person that you are. Not all lessons from the past are going to be a positive one but I can guarantee that they will benefit you in the long run.
This is one of the most important lessons. I used to hate when people would say that no one would ever love you unless you loved yourself. I thought this to be a lie because obviously in all movies, the guy would make the girl see how wonderful she was and then she would come to love herself. Life is 10,000% not like the movies. You do need to know yourself and what you want before you could ever expect someone else to understand. Hell, putting relationships aside, you must come to love yourself because you are stuck with you for the rest of your life. I know that self-love is most definitely easier said than done, but you are pretty great and deserve love from everyone, including yourself.
You must be in tune with your body and take care of it because your body is your transportation, if it doesn’t work, you don’t work. This is not like Stephanie Meyer’s The Host where you can suck out your soul and put it into a new body. You must take the necessary precautions to ensure that you are able to live a long life. Once again, easier said than done, but at this very moment, I have taken the steps towards working to a healthier life with one of the Miss Millennial Magazine contributors, Alyssa Richardson, that we will do a 30 day cleanse of no alcohol and must work out each day. Little steps help lead to big results. So you do not have to go to drastic measures like we are, but making little changes here and there will help you in the long run.
Always, always, always educate yourself. There are so many ways to access information and to continuously educate ourselves every day, whether this is going to school, TED Talks, or even taking Groupon classes (Yeah, Groupon offers some online classes!). Our mind is one freedom that can never be taken away from us and is beneficial in all walks of life. Through learning, you can travel the world, learn about others’ lives, or travel throughout time. Out of all of my tips, I stress this one the most because claiming an education can lead us to become a better world.
Personal SWOT Analysis
A SWOT analysis is typically a term applied to business or big events, but your life is one big event! For those you don’t know, SWOT stands for Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats. I occasionally like to take a personal inventory of my life and when doing so, I use this. What are the strengths in my life? What do I really have going for me? What’s working? Then I have to look at the opposite end. What is not working out so well? What needs to be eliminated? Sometimes this could mean a personal habit or a relationship. Then we move to the opportunities. What could I utilize in my life to make it better? Maybe I could turn a volunteer opportunity into a future internship. Finally, there are the threats. What am I doing that can threaten my success? For me, this would be my procrastination on school work. Take the time to do your personal SWOT analysis.
Check Your Crew
Look at the people around you. These are the ones that will heavily influence you and either help you become a better person or a terrible one. In order to be nicer to yourself, you have to work on those around you who will constantly boost you up and put you in your place when you need it. These people can also help you work towards your self-love. They should push you to be better and achieve great things in life.
Big Kid Goals
Make some big kid goals. You know, the ones back in the day when you would imagine yourself having a house made of candy when you became a big kid (was that just me?). Obviously, you should try and modify them to something that is realistic, but it is so crucial and beneficial to have goals that you can work towards every day. Plan them out to be your 5 years, 10 years, or 15-year plans so that you can realistically hold yourself accountable to a date and plan. After I graduate school, it is in my 5 year plan to live in Scotland for a while. Take the time to think about what your big kid goals are.
There is never a finish line….
You need to remember that you are an ongoing process, there is never a finish line. Every day you must take the small steps to continue bettering yourself and setting yourself up for a better future. This obviously takes work, but just try to address these steps day by day to come to a place where you are nicer to your future self.
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