I Found Love Online — My First Love Ever.
When I first started telling people I was thinking of online dating, of course, the first thing out of everyone’s mouth was their horror story experience from the daunting realm of the World Wide Web. If they hadn’t experienced the online disaster themselves, it was their friend, their sister, or on a reality show. Some guy ended up being the complete opposite of what he’d said, the date was the most awkward experience ever, the date committed this atrocious dating taboo—the stories were endless and each one felt more intimidating than the other.
I was very innocent going into the world of online dating
It was the first time I had ever tried something like this. But that was the least of my inexperience. I’d never had a boyfriend before. I’d never even been on a casual date before. At 25 years old, I may have been a bit naïve in my romantic experience, but my life experience certainly made up for it.
As a teen, I never made time for dating because I never felt like I had time for it. I was a busy-body with her hands on a million projects at once and was more excited about auditioning for the latest musical than flirting with the guy whose locker was closest to mine. I knew I’d have the rest of my life to date, find love, and eventually settle down.
However, this took a sudden hiatus when at 18
A week before my senior prom, I fell into a coma. What followed over the next several years was more than two dozen surgeries and an odd mixture of feeling like an old soul, wise beyond my years with too much life experience, and a newborn child rediscovering the world, regaining physical strength and suddenly having to be taken care of again.
There were so many highs and lows along this deviant path, so many twists and turns, blessings and curses, setbacks and triumphs. The biggest one of all was just three years ago. I was recovering from what was supposed to be my final surgery, but unfortunately, it left me worse off.
I was slowly healing, but my heart was what needed the most mending
From years of trying to keep my head up while being so isolated, I was overwhelmed with loneliness all at once. I was fresh out of the hospital and didn’t have a community of people my age I could just go out with at night and be social with; no way to leave this medical thundercloud behind me, even just for a few hours of relaxation. I had no expectations and nothing to lose, so I set up an online dating profile for myself using the first dating site I remember someone mentioning. What was the worst that could happen?
I had been away from the social scene for so long and had no idea what “dating etiquette” was or the right “games” to play when finding a guy, so I had no filter.
I just made my profile whatever I felt was me. It was great to write that profile; it was a way to really describe who I was without the medical part, and in doing so, I was able to remember who I was again, which filled me with a forgotten sense of confidence. I had no idea how to date, but now I thought, “27 surgeries were rough; dating should be a cinch!”
Of course, having been through so much, anyone who found out I was exploring the shady world of online dating was wary and extremely cautious. Having overprotective parents is one thing. Add three older brothers into the mix and you have an army of loving, caring people who become overridden with paranoia and neuroticism when they hear their 25-year-old “baby girl” is dating…and online too!
Things happened very quickly.
A bunch of guys messaged me at once, which was overwhelming, although very good for the confidence! Emboldened by these successes, I started writing back. Suddenly, I felt alive in a new-found way, I had reawakened those long-dormant social muscles and it was the breath of life I needed. I was having a blast with writing back and forth to prospective suitors when suddenly I received a message from an adorable guy named Brandon.
Something was different in our connection.
We had so much in common, it was almost like I was writing to myself! Soon, our messages became so long that we weren’t able to send them in the standard online format and we had to exchange e-mails which turned to text, which turned to phone calls, and eventually he convinced me to meet him in person.
I was certainly nervous because I had no dating experience. I hadn’t even seen a man except for doctors in years! But I convinced my parents to drop me off around the corner and with an odd mixture of trembling excitement and heart-pounding fear, I met this man of online mystery face to face.
Brandon and I clicked like magic
I had never experienced before. Once my brothers got over their relief that he wasn’t an online sketch-ball, they focused on lecturing me about the proper dating do’s and don’t’s. When I bragged of our instant connection, the first advice I got was to not call him right away. So I sent him an e-mail saying, “Can we meet up tomorrow?” How’s that for my attempt at playing hard to get. A second date followed at the mall. Four months later he proposed and on June 27th, 2015…
We got married!!!
Maybe I was lucky
To this day, Brandon loves telling me his own online dating horror stories. I never had to deal with the bar scene or play dating games, and I’m not sure I’d be able to follow those “dating rules” I hear about. But I guess I’ve played life my own way for years now. It’s lead to some roundabout detours, scenic plateaus, obstacles, hurdles, blessing, and disappointments, but ultimately it’s led to the love of my life. I don’t need to meet or date anyone else, on or off the web. I feel like I’ve traveled the world and have finally found the missing piece of my heart, the half I was searching for my entire life.
And it all started online.
So next time you’re debating whether to try another night at the bar, get talked into a blind date, or wait for your best friend to set you up with that co-worker who is “just perfect for you,” how about getting out your laptop, getting creative, and setting up a dating profile? You never know what you’ll find…
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I love that wedding photo! My oldest daughter met her now-husband online. She did background checks, etc, before ever meeting him for the first time. I was that person that was convinced he was probably an axe murderer. That was before I met him, of course.
haha I hear ya!
I love your story and I’m so happy that you found a great guy. I know a few couples that met through online dating and they are still together. Congratulations!
That is so incredibly sweet! I got married at 18 so I didn’t have much dating experience either. If I were to become a widow or divorced now, I wouldn’t even know where to begin.
It’s awesome that you were able to make such a great connection with Brandon. It sounds like you found each other at just the right time!
What a moving story! You had such a difficult road. I am so glad you found someone to share your life with. Congratulations!
Aw, thanks so much!
My husband and I met online, too! I was actually certain I’d never see him again because he was so different than every other guy I dated. Turns out, that was a good thing 😉
I met my bf online too! He’s the best. Im so glad that everything worked out for you and you were able to make a real connection!
Yes, definitely – thanks!
Love moves in mysterious ways eh? Lovely story! awesome!
This is an awesome love story and you are both so lucky to have found each other. My sister dated online before meeting her now husband at a barefoot running group. They started talking online a year after the group started.
That’s awesome 🙂
Love the story, so pretty and romantic! I’ve met my husband online and moved here because of him!!!
What a beautiful story. I’m glad that you found your love. June 27 is also our wedding anniversary.
THanks – hey it’s a lucky date!
What a story! That is amazing and I’m glad it had such a great ending. I’ve been married 9 years in Feb and dated my hubby for 2 years before that so that was around when my friends all started online dating, but I’ve never done it and I was always scared to even attempt.
Thanks! I guess I was fearless because I just didn’t know anything about it! haha
Aw. Congrats. I have known my huz my whole life and we got together in high school so I never had to date. I am always thankful for that. I know I wouldve hated it.
Right? I always consider myself lucky on that end!
I love your story. You just never know where you will find love. I know couples that met online playing games like World of Warcraft!
Hey – whatever works, right?
What a wonderful love story! I met my husband online, and we had a similar story. It was an immediate connection. I think getting to know someone online is a great way to start dating.
My blog concentrated on weddings for a year and I can say this is the best story I have read. Wow, what a story. It warms me knowing you met him and had this fairty tale love story even if you thought it may not happen in such a way. <3
Aw thanks! Hey wedding are right up my alley, I’d love to guest post!
I closed up the “wedding stuff” because my vow renewal is over. I had a vow renewal in June so for a full year I partnered with Alfred Angelo. It was awesome. If you go to my blog on the right side you’ll see a line for Alfred Angelo, click on it. 🙂
This is such a great story! Congratulations on finding your spouse so fast and without drama!
I love to hear love stories but yours is definitely one of the most sweet and cutest I’ve ever read about!
What a lovely story. I can imagine the craziness that happens with online dating. I don’t know anyone with personal stories, but can you imagine what women and men go through. Yikes. Congrats to you both.