Marriage is a big step. Most of us are aware of this, especially those who have already taken that step. But, what if there were things you could have thought about before tying the knot? The good news is, there is! Though there are multiple ways to figure out if you are truly ready to commit to someone, I have a few suggestions to offer. My advice would be to sit down, alone, ponder these few things and collect your thoughts while doing so. There are questions you can ask yourself before taking that huge leap. Because once you are married, there is no turning back (What can I say? I’m traditional!)
- Why? This is often the most important question and also the hardest. But it is imperative that you can answer it. Why are you getting married to this person? This answer may take awhile to come up with, and you will most certainly not be able to answer it on the spot. If you are unable to come up with something at all or something more than “Why not?” then maybe you should think a little harder about rather you are making the right decision.
- What was your last argument over? Of course every relationship will have arguments; that is natural! However, taking a look at your last argument and how it went may provide you with a better look at what things may be like in the future. Do the two of you know how to communicate with each other? Are you able to read signs and signals from your partner? Do you know your partner well enough to know when and how to approach them? By taking a closer look at your communication styles, you will have a better idea of how the two of you will handle conflict.
- How much time have you spent together in the last week? Though some people do choose to marry quickly, if you haven’t, decided to go that route, take a look at the last week. How much time did you spend with your significant other? Was it fun? Was it stressful? If it was stressful how did the two of you handle it?
Considering these questions is not a guaranteed way of being ready for marriage. The last week may have been busy for you both, and you didn’t get to spend time together very much or your last argument could have gone smoothly, yet the one before that was rough. The thing to keep in mind here is that by looking deeper into these three questions you will be able to take a closer look into your current relationship and let that serve as a lens into what the future may hold. May I wish you nothing but the best of luck in your future marriage!