Everything You Need to Know About Politics and Dating
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Dating is like an interesting game of bingo. You are sitting there with your empty card of expectations and what you want to find in a significant other to win the game. Are you attracted to them? B4! Do you have similar values? I12! Do your friends like them? N22! Does your family like them? G 36! As you’re sitting on the edge of your seat waiting for that last ball to come out with the O, THE BIG P COMES OUT! That’s right. I am talking about politics! Usually, politics while dating is considered a taboo topic and one you might want to tread on lightly. However, these five tips can help you make the talk about politics a little more palatable!
I had the opportunity to tune into the live-stream of Match’s 6th annual Singles in America study at The Rickey at Dream Midtown which covered Politics, Sex & Dating. Throughout my tips, I offer some statistics that this study found!
Don’t automatically rule them out
The game isn’t over just yet! DO NOT clear your cards! This does not need to be a make or break in the relationship. It is beneficial for a couple to have some differing opinions which can make for a stronger bond. As mentioned in Match’s 6th annual Singles in America study, millennials really want to get to know everything about the other person before it moves on (Match). So throughout the dating process, there will be many tidbits you learn about the other person you may not agree with. It is better to just hear them out and work through it. I know this is easier said than done, especially when he might be an extreme Republican, and you are a set Democrat, but take the time to hear each other out. In fact, it is very likely that most couples have different political opinions and “35% of people will not consider dating someone who does not have an opinion on critical political issues” so it should be encouraged that they have an opinion on the matter (Match).
Don’t take it personal
Try not to see your significant other as just their political party. There could be a deeper significance to their decisions that give them such a strong opinion. Take that time to hear why they believe the things they do and the importance to them. Be sure to share the importance of your opinions as well with your significant other because there may be a deeper meaning behind yours. In your conversation, you might be able to find an overlap in values that can lead to a perfect compromise. However, if you are not able to find common ground, just remember that their political views are not an attack against you personally.
You are not going to agree on everything in your relationship, so politics should be no different. As mentioned before, it helps to have some differing opinions about the relationship. Plus, it creates a sense of comfortability in your relationship knowing that whatever opinion you hold, you will not be judged by seeing things in a different way. This does not only apply to those in different political parties. Individuals in the same political party may still disagree on some issues. The political make-up of singles is “40% Democrat, 19% Republican, 15% independent, 2 % Libertarians, and 24% non-affiliated”, so the chances of you being in the same political party ranges and having the same complete opinion varies just as much (Match). It is just very important to listen to your significant other versus forming a negative opinion against them.
Balance the conversation
Instead of only voicing the positives of your political decisions, try also to hear the negatives that your significant other might suggest. This could help to either strengthen your decision or direct you to a different candidate that you had not thought of before. Over 80% of singles discuss politics, money, and religion, so it helps to be able to discuss these things with an open-mind and to hear what each of you both have to add to the conversation (Match). Try to give each other time to equally speak on both of your beliefs and critiques of the candidates. You both want to feel able to speak about what you believe in, but you should also be open to hearing their opinion. If you absolutely cannot come to a compromise in discussing politics, then maybe this something you do separately.
Get educated on the topic
Make sure you educate yourself on all the candidates and issues. Be sure to listen to your significant others viewpoint because it may be something you had not thought of before. Try not to jump to conclusions based on their decisions. Hear them out. If you both do not have a clear stance, take this an opportunity for you and your significant other to do some research together to see all facets of the candidates and their views. In researching together, you make come to an even middle ground. So get educated!
If their opinions are not too big of a deal breaker for you, then be sure just to support them. It is nice to know that even through differing opinions, you have got each other’s backs and support them in whatever decision they choose to make. It could be detrimental to your relationship if you do not support them because there will be times in other situations where you do not agree on something, but you still need that comfort in knowing you still have each other. Plus, it is proven that if you both have a passion for politics, no matter the stance, you will very likely have better sex than other singles! (Match)
So at the end of the day, politics is not the biggest piece of your relationship, but it is important to identify where each of you stand. Having different opinions can be beneficial to the relationship and create a stronger bond than ever before. In the end, we’re all trying to make the world a better place. So in using these tips, you should be able to conquer the politics conversation and stand up to shout BINGO because you may have yourself a winner!
If you want to hear more about the Singles in America live-stream filmed at The Rickey at Dream Midtown, watch it below.
Interested in learning more about politics and dating? Be sure to read Let’s Talk Politics: Restoring Civility Through Exploratory Discussion.
I can certainly see how discussing politics while dating can get tense. These are wonderful tips. It would be a boring world if we all agreed on everything, including politics.
It would defintiely be a boring world. Thanks for the comment!
I never discussed politics with anyone I was dating. I’m one of those people that feel most people just can’t have an intelligent political discussion. I guess if you hadd two people of certain minds it would matter.
It can be challenging to tackle the topic with someone that has a different opinion but it is definitely worth the try. Thanks for the comment!
I feel like I need to be physically and politically in line with the person I am with. My husband and I do not see eye to eye on everything (we are registered for different parties) but we agree on many things and can discuss them civilly. I think keeping the discussions civil is the most important. I totally lose respect for anything who needs to SCREAM to make their point… and it’s a total relationship killer.
This is awesome that you can discuss these topics civilly. You are right, there is no need to raise your voice to make a point. Thanks for the comment!
Relationships are all about respecting each others views and opinions on things as well as having things in common. I wouldn’t discuss politics on the first few dates though.
Respect is highly important and must be applied in all aspects of the relationship. Thanks for the comment!
Boo and I have different opinions about politics but also share a few similar beliefs which has helped us respect each other even more
I’m happy that you and boo can speak respectively to each other! Thanks for the comment!
Politics are a tough subject in a lot of relationships. Babe and I are on the same side when it comes to politics so we can discuss it without incident.
This is very true and there is no longer a need for politics to be so taboo if you are able to respect each other. Thanks for the comment!
Politics can be hot button issues, that’s for sure. I really don’t think I would be able to be married to someone who has such opposite political views as me.
A completely different political opinion is something to think about before entering a serious relationship but remember to hear the other person out. Thanks for the comment!
Polictics hasn’t really come up in my relationship. I think it’s because neither me or my husbsnd have strong views on the subject.
Well this is definitely good for you two ! Thanks for the comment!
I am greatful that something like politics has never come between my husband and I. Some people can be very pasionate about their political party so these tips are fantastic.
Thank you and thanks for the comment!
I believe that couples are happy not because they do not have differences. It is because they accepted their differences.
That is a great point! Thanks for the comment!
Honestly, I am so glad that I don’t have to worry about dating anymore, because I was never very good at it. I am always thankful that my husband and I have similar values.
I happy the two of you are able to see things the same 🙂 Thanks for the comment!
This is a great post for those who date and talk politics while dating. I feel that it should not matter how either feels about the topic. Thanks for sharing the tips.
Thanks for the comment!
Politics are a bit different in Canada they aren’t as widely talked about as they are in the US at least not really openly. We don’t really discuss anything like that. So glad I am out of the dating game too, I don’t think I’d know how to anymore!
Hmm I had no idea. Thanks for the comment!
Honestly, I am so glad that I don’t have to worry about dating anymore….I’m so glad I’ve found my husband! Love your post!
So happy you were able to find each other 🙂 Thanks for the comment!
This is a great for those couples that share the interest in politics. I’m happily married to the most amazing man!
Very sound advice. Matter of fact, now that BB’s on hubby #3 she can attest that this is good to keep in mind on most subjects!! Have an open mind, don’t take things personally or too seriously. Love is supposed to be fun not fitfull! BB2U
Oh goodness! I’m so glad that my hubby and I are so alike on our political opinions! I can’t imagine having to navigate that part of a dating relationship.