When two people decide to be together in a relationship, it is easy to lose track of your individual self. Millennials focus on figuring out who they are. That shouldn’t be hindered for the sake of a relationship. While the relationship does thrive on doing good things for the other person, it is also important to stay true to yourself and continue to grow. Growth means you are developing as a person and becoming someone even more interesting. Here I list some examples on how to keep your own personal growth throughout a relationship.
Take a day to yourself
Even if you love spending every waking moment with this person, it is always good to spend some time apart. Once you are apart, this will give you a chance to do things that you love that you don’t usually do with your significant other. For example, you can go to the spa, practice your favorite hobby, or just change the furniture around in your place. This is a great opportunity as well to appreciate things about your partner that one could take for granted. A brief separation gives both partners a chance to think about why they like their significant other in the first place. This is a wonderful practice, especially for couples who’ve been together for over a year.
Don’t forget the things you love to do
One of the great things about a relationship is that you are bringing something to the table. Often a common mistake made is that people forget this and turn into a person who is completely involved in only the relationship. They forget about their unique qualities. If you love playing an instrument, then don’t give it up. If that person loved that you played, it’s not something they want you to give up. Nothing is more attractive than someone with a passion of their own. If you don’t have a particular passion find out what that is. Read books, join a hobby group, or just take a little time to meditate. Your personal growth is dependent on pursuing your passions.
Cater to your own needs too
A trait that is seen very often in women is that they tend to forget about their own needs and focus completely on the needs of others. This is a quick and easy way to resent the ones you love. If you are always giving to others without giving to yourself, you are sure to crash and burn. Take time out to work out and eat healthy. Go on a shopping spree and treat yourself to a daily reward for being there for everyone else. Working out every morning is a great way to feel good all day.
While some may think it is selfish to think about themselves in a relationship, it is beneficial to both parties. While it is still important to do nice things for your significant other, be mindful that you should always come first. Go out there and get to know yourself!