There are fewer better excuses to feel real anxiety than a promising first date. The very thought of meeting, impressing, and enjoying a potential mate can make even the most confident lady shake in her pumps. There’s no need for the nerves, girls! First dates are actually the universe’s way of reminding us how awesome we really are. Once you realize that, you’ll be able to rock every first date you ever have.
The key to having an amazing first date is to understand that any guy that has the gall to ask you out is lucky to be in your presence. Is it cocky? Yes. Is it true? Definitely. As women, we are inherently great and men cannot help but to marvel at the greatness. Revel in it. Live it. If your greatness is at the forefront of your mind, then it will manifest itself as the confidence and warmth that will draw people to you.
When it comes to being on the actual date, make sure to demonstrate your confidence. If you have a favorite drink or beer, don’t hesitate to order it at the bar. This simple act sends a signal to your date that you’re a decisive woman. Being decisive is a huge turn on for a guy because it removes some of the pressure he’s undoubtedly feeling. Another tip is to choose the bar or restaurant for the date. Again, this shows that you’re confident enough to make an informed suggestion. On top of that, it can give a guy insight on who you are and what you like to do.
Most people are worried about having noting to discuss on their first date. Avoid awkward silences by boning up on basic current events. Take a quick peek at an online news feed, and not just the celeb stories. This will give you something to bring up that will spark additional conversation. If current events are too heavy for your date, a great way to keep conversation going is to ask about a childhood memory. What was his favorite Halloween costume as a kid? What was is favorite Christmas gift? Cute stories like this will keep the two of you laughing and help you to get to know each other on a completely new level. He won’t only love the fact that you think outside the box, but also that you’re willing to listen.
Last but not least, remember that first dates are meant to be fun, not stressful. Don’t dress any differently than you normally would, as it is important to be comfortable. Be, and I cannot stress this enough, yourself. Smiling is the best way to show your date you’re having a good time, so take a deep breath and enjoy your experience.
As you can see, it’s really easy to have a great first date. Once you eliminate nerves and embrace your natural female awesome, it’s a breeze to let all your other amazing attributes shine through. Remember to be decisive and keep the conversation going and you’ll be on your way to a fun and happy first date that will no doubt lead to a second date, and maybe even a third and fourth.