Making emotional connections with other people makes us uniquely human. We all have unforeseen ties that bind us to everyone from our mothers, siblings, and teachers since birth. It just makes sense that as we age, we continue to actively pursue fulfilling and meaningful relationships with other people. Our search for a suitable mate is not desperation, but a genuine attempt. Too often, women who are “single and ready to mingle” are vilified, made to feel guilty about their relationship status. These women are just following their natural instinct to seek meaningful connections.
Why are women condemned for being single over an extended period of time? Women should be celebrated for being selective and careful with their hearts. Being unattached is nothing to be ashamed of, and as a single woman, I refuse to be discouraged. There are so many lucky women in wonderful relationships with excellent partners that appreciate them more because of the time they spent being single.
Do Whatever Heart Pleases
I am enjoying the single life. It has served an important part of my personal and emotional development. On top of that, though, it’s just fun. I can do whatever I want without really having to consider the feelings of someone else. I’m not saying I’m unkind or selfish—what I’m saying is I can worry about whatever I want.
Relationships tend to complicate simple things, like taking a weeknight dinner. As a single girl, if I want to eat a can of pineapples for dinner, I can and will. If I were in a relationship, though, it’s possible that I would have to consider what my partner wanted. I’d have to text or call him, wait for him to decide, and change my plans to suit his. That’s annoying. Sometimes, I just want to do me, and as a single woman, that’s all I have to do.
Another highlight of the single life is the joy of a real flirt. Every once in a while, I put on a pretty dress, a few coats of mascara, and a pair of high heels; all just to do mundane things. I’ll head to the bank or the grocery store looking like a million bucks. I’m not looking to pick anyone up when I do this; I simply like feeling and looking my absolute best.
An awesome result of this is the fact that I feel so confident that I smile and bat my eyelashes at everyone. I get to flirt with the world, and for the most part, the world flirts back. Smiles and compliments are contagious, and giving both comes easily to me, especially when I’m feeling extra flirty. If I had a boyfriend, he might be a little upset that the bank teller slipped me his phone number or that I called the kid that bagged my groceries handsome. As a single girl, though, I can flirt until my heart is content.
I honestly believe that being single will prepare me to be in a relationship. I know myself, my limits, and what I’m willing to compromise on. Because I’ve had time to develop a stronger sense of self, I am better suited to share myself with someone else. On top of that, I have a much clearer notion of what I’m looking for in a mate. I know that one day, I’ll likely commit to someone, and all of my smiles and compliments will go to him. And it’s probable that having weeknight dinners together will become our favorite activity. But for now, my pineapples and I are just fine on our own.
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