It’s February, that month where everyone loves to love, love. And we are no different here at Miss Millennia Magazine. This month we asked someone special to grace the cover for this special edition and to our excitement she said yes! Please meet April Beyer, dating and relationship coach and expert. You’ve probably seen her on 20/20, Dr. Phil, and Good Morning America and she has come to share her wisdom with us! Listen to what April had to say about life and love for millennial women and stay tuned this month to read her posts she writes for us as well!
MMM: What led you to a career in match making, love, and relationships?
AB: I started working with a high end Matchmaking company in my late 20’s. At the time, it was simply a job but I fell in love with the work, the clients and discovering what created connection and love for so many singles.
MMM: Where did you learn what you know about Love and relationships?
AB: I have to say that the genesis of my knowledge of love and relationships comes from my family. I’m the granddaughter of a Lutheran Minister and have quite a few of them in my family. There’s such a spiritual aspect to my work and I know much of this comes from my lineage. My father and Mother have one of the most loving relationships I have ever seen which of course taught me a great deal growing up. The balance of my knowledge has come from 17 years of being in the high end matchmaking and relationship coaching industry. There just isn’t any story I haven’t heard.
MMM: What did you major in, in school?
AB: I went to a Performing Arts School in NYC after High School. I’m also the graduate of a 2 year Meisner program, which I credit to giving me a foundation of deep and profound listening skills. I’ve created an entire relationship coaching platform based on those very same principals.
MMM: What is one mistake do you feel women often make in their relationships?
AB: The biggest mistake I see women make in relationships is not listening to their own intuition. Women come to me with millions of questions and so much self doubt. The answers and truth lie within all of us. We simply need to be brave enough to listen to and act on our own instincts.
MMM: What is needed in order to have a good relationship?
AB: Every good relationship needs commitment, work ethic, dedication and compromise. But first, you must know yourself really well so you’re not committing to the wrong person or relationship. Compromise can only be healthy when it’s a choice because you love someone. It should never require you to compromise your own beliefs, values or personal goals.
MMM: How would you measure relationship success?
AB: Relationship Success is measured by the amount of ease and happiness a couple feels when they’re together. Relationships should inspire us, push us to be the best version of ourselves, and be our teachers.
MMM: What advice would you give to women pursuing a career in love and relationships?
AB: The advice I would give to anyone wanting a career in the love and relationship space is to pursue an internship or employment with an existing company. I worked at a large firm for nearly six years prior to starting my own company. All too often, we see women and men getting into the dating market who have no foundation or prior experience in the field. I see people calling themselves “dating experts” simply because they’ve put up a website. It really hurts the industry and only confuses the consumer with the massive amount of unproductive dating advice that’s out in the world. Just because the career fascinates you doesn’t mean you should do it. You should be able to walk the walk, and be in a healthy and lasting relationship yourself, before you can ever teach anyone how to love.
MMM: What has been your biggest struggle in achieving your goals? How are you overcoming it?
AB: One of my biggest struggles in achieving my goals has been to complete my dream projects such as the two books I’m working on. I have more ideas than I have time. I run a very busy and successful Matchmaking company, and it can be challenging to work on the projects that are closest to my heart. I’m now creating time and space in my calendar to make these goals a reality for 2015.
MMM: What inspires you?
AB: I’m inspired by human connection. It’s what motivates everything in my life. A simple deep and profound conversation with a perfect stranger can lift my mood. I’m inspired by the beauty of the ocean, the trees in the park, the wagging tails of my dogs. Anything that is heart centered is my source of joy.
MMM: What will you write about for the blog?
AB: I plan to blog about how women in their 20s and early 30s can approach dating in a healthy way, one that will help them enjoy their single and dating days to the fullest. This is a very special time in the modern woman’s life, and often women don’t realize that until it’s over! I want women to have fun meeting people and dating, rather than obsessing over finding “the one!”
MMM: Do you feel like you can inspire women in their 20′s and 30′s? If so how would you go about doing this?
AB: I would like to continue to inspire women in their 20’s and 30’s by giving them guidance on how to listen to their own powerful voices in the world. To never give away their power to anyone, and to allow themselves to be authentic and open to love and all things possible in their lives. If we can get women to have the right mindset earlier on in life, we could literally save thousands of marriages by giving them the tools to make solid choices in men and dating.
MMM: Who does Lady Lennia represent to you?
AB: For me, Lady Lennia is a woman who is willing to be fully dimensional — a woman who is open to new experiences, curious, positive, and yet self-possessed. She is someone who has taken the time to listen to herself, to reflect on her goals and her values, who knows what is important to her and what she has to offer the world. She lives her life from a values-based place of self-knowledge, which means she is able be warm, friendly, smart, feminine, successful, happy and confident, all at the same time. I think of this person being a beacon shining warm light into the world, who is on her own journey and taking care of her own needs while sharing her light with those around her.
Learn more about April by checking out her site at AprilBeyer.com.