BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
It sounds so easy, but why is it so hard? I can't tell you how many times I've started and stopped a project in my life. How many times I've given up. How many times I've let rejection or others criticism define me.
As a career and business coach I often get consultation requests in which I have prospective clients complete a questionnaire and almost unanimously, the clients talk about fear, uncertainty, or lack of clarity holding them back in their careers or businesses.
These emotions, these thoughts, are such universal barriers… how have we not come up with a better way to overcome them by now?
I know I was meant for something big in my life. I know that every unique experience I have been through, every struggle, and every hurdle have all been leading me towards something meaningful. Sometimes I feel like I am stuck in quicksand, just running in place without moving forward, other times I feel like I am soaring on a jet plane to my destination.
Why the lack of consistency? Why does our motivation have a half life?
HOW WE CAN STAY MOTIVATED AND HOLD ONTO THAT ACCOMPLISHED AND PROUD FEELING?
1. Schedule everything on your calendar.
Not only is this a great way to stay organized with your to-do list, but it also can act as a “#Winning” Record, as it's hard tangible proof of all that you've accomplished. Whenever I start to feel like I am stuck or not getting anywhere, I look through my calendar and celebrate all the little victories on it.
2. Write or re-visit your life's mission statement.
Whenever I feel burnt out on a goal, I revisit my “why” as in why I decided to tackle this goal? Why is it important to me? How is this fueling my bigger picture? If you haven't written a mission statement for your life, do it! If you do have one, revisit it whenever you feel like burying your head under the covers.
3. Make the negative voice in your head shut up.
For many of us, when we get rejected or receive criticism it hits a much deeper emotional chord. Sometimes it can even lead to hours of obsessing and dissecting the interaction. When we focus our energy on these type of situations we usually do one of two things:
a) React negatively. We let it define us. We let it crumble us. We let it cause us stress, anxiety, or anger.
b) React positively. We use it as a learning lesson. We take an objective look at our role in the situation and adjust accordingly. Maybe we put too many expectations on someone? Maybe we made a mistake? Maybe we ignored our gut or warning signs about a situation? Either way, we find our role in the situation, take responsibility for it, and move forward.
When we can acknowledge our role, we can tell the negative voice in our head to pipe down, because it doesn't have power over us any more.
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Organization is certainly the biggest key for me having a happier day! Romans 8:28 is my life verse and I also like the statement “If it is to be, it is up to me!”
Silencing that negative voice in our head can be hard to do. My mantra is “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”
This is great advice, it’s important to believe in yourself and control your thoughts so that you stay positive and believe in yourself!
Sometimes it can be hard to believe in yourself. We all have negative self-talk that occasionally rears its ugly head. These are great tips to shun the negativity and embrace the positivity.
Yes, to all of this. I work everyday on staying positive. Some days are harder than others, that’s for sure.
I think those are such amazing secrets. It can be such a struggle to stay positive all of the time about yourself.
This is such a great message and one that I have consistently tried to share this with my daughters. I am going to have my oldest read this tonight!
I love telling that negative voice to be silent. I also love your tip about putting it on a calendar. That has been my lifesaver.
It’s amazing how someone’s negative words can stay in the back of our minds, sometimes for years! It’s great to focus on the positive things and emphasize those. By the same token, I think it’s good to remember to say positive things to others to help them have positive moments to focus on, too!
It really helps when everything has a plan and on a calendar. Having a mission statement also gives you focus and conviction on achieving your goals.
I think these are some wonderful strategies. Schedules definitely help me and I think reassessing my goals now and then would help too.
My mantra in life is >>> The secret to having it all, is believing you already do and I certainly do! It is very good advice that you are giving and strategies for assiting you in sticking the course.
You are preaching to the choir with #3. I’m working on it!!
I need to reread this a couple of times. I am told I am a pretty great mom, nurse, friend, but I have trouble believing it myself.
What a great post! Number 3 is soo important. Something you have to work on every single day.
I’ve always found it very hard to believe in myself, but these are really great tips, to help focus on the positive.
When I get stressed is when I start to lose doubt in myself. Its terrible!
I need to get better at scheduling things on the calendar. It’s a great idea to look back at your victories and celebrate them.
These are some great tips! I’m all about scheduling everything. I don’t know how I would servive without my schedules