How to be Strategic With Your Online Dating
Are you looking for a potential partner? Well, the dating game has changed a bit! No longer is it common to find your soulmate at random. You are now more likely to find your perfect match online; there is nothing wrong with that! How perfect to list what you are looking for in a person and be matched up. However, it would be best to be strategic with the online dating game. So here are some tips and tricks for online dating!
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Picking the Right Online Dating App
“You never know where you’re going to meet the next person you date, so if you’re only looking in one spot (like that bar where you’re a regular), then you’re missing out on tons of possible partners” (Women’s Health). How perfect it is, then, that there are so many dating apps out there today, many of which are specifically geared to specific groups of people.
If there is a specific quality you are looking for in a partner that is very important to you, then I would choose those dating apps. So, for example, if a specific religion, race, or career is essential to you in a partner, then I would choose a dating app that focuses on that. However, if those things aren’t as important, you can choose a dating app that casts a giant net, like Harmony.
Another example of a dating site focused on connecting individuals seeking serious relationships is Elite Singles. This platform focuses on connecting individuals with higher education backgrounds and successful careers. In addition, the site utilizes a comprehensive personality assessment to help users find compatible partners based on factors such as intellect, ambition, and lifestyle preferences. Check out here if you want to learn more about Elite Singles’ features to see if it’s the right platform for you.
Here is a cheat sheet provided by digital matchmaker Julie Spira, founder of CyberDatingExpert.com, on what each dating website offers.
Being Authentic
You want to be authentic in your profile. You would hate it if you read someone’s profile and they were the complete opposite when you met them. So don’t do that to anyone else. You are ideally looking for someone you can spend the rest of your life with. Being as authentic as possible in your profile will help to find the perfect person and limit the amount of time weeding out wrong choices.
“One study showed that men are more attracted to responsive women and women who are kind and warm right off the bat. That doesn’t mean being over-the-top eager—you don’t have to laugh at his jokes if they’re not funny—but it’s OK to respond to that text promptly or tell him how much fun you’re having. Being kind is a turn-on, so forget what you’ve been told about playing it ice-cold” (Women’s Health).
So be sure that you don’t oversell yourself. We both know you are amazing, but you also have some imperfections. Don’t worry; we all do! It’s these imperfections that someone could fall in love with. You don’t want to waste somebody’s time just like you don’t want them to waste yours. So don’t make yourself out to be the greatest gift this world has to offer, but don’t undersell yourself. Be authentic.
Truly Invest
If you are serious about finding someone, act like it. Please don’t sign up for a dating app and expect it to do all the work. Yes, it is a place that can match you with someone else, but you have to put the work into it. Think of online dating as a database. It takes all this information from millions, and then you go in there and quickly weed through them all. The dating app is an assistant, not a final decision.
If you paid for the app, you want to invest your time. What is the point of wasting your money if you don’t spend time on it? This is your love life; take control. The same goes if you are not paying for the dating app. It would just be taking up a waste of data on your phone. But, again, what is the point in signing up if you are not putting the time into it?
Doing it at the Right Time
So while investing your time, you must also pick the correct times for online dates. For instance, looking at profiles while drinking may not yield the best results. Or if you are super lonely during the holidays and are just looking for someone to fill that void quickly, chances are they might not last long.
You want to work on your love life when you have a clear head and feel emotionally stable. You ultimately want to keep this person around for a long time, so chat with them when you are ready.
Meet as Much as Possible
As I mentioned, the online dating company is only your first meeting place. After that, it is up to you to try and get to know that person. However, try not to build the whole relationship through the app. Instead, I would highly advise you to meet each other in person as much as possible and use the app as just a conversation starter. Then, after you have matched and gotten initial introductions out of the way, set up a date and get to know each other in person.
It will help to build a better relationship if you spend most of your getting to know each other time face to face. So if the date goes awry, or that relationship turns out to be a dud, don’t give up. Your next unique date might be right around the corner. Now if your “dates go awry, or that relationship turns out to be a dud, don’t give up. Your next amazing date might be right around the corner” (Women’s Health).
Keep these little tips in mind while navigating the online dating world!
Resources: Women’s Health
Do you use online dating? Have any other tips or tricks to share? Write them below in the comments section!
