When my friends tell me that a man has called them “cute” on a date, they cringe as they tell the story, wondering why they share the same adjective as a golden retriever puppy. If a man calls her “hot”, she will wonder why he didn’t call her beautiful, and might even be offended at his sexual forwardness. My research for this topic consisted mainly of scouring message boards about relationships, … [Read more...] about Beautiful vs. Sexy: Why Choose?
Have you ever known—no—felt in your gut that something was not quite right about the way you feel in your relationship? Do you have moments that make you a little nauseous, and even question your beliefs? Do loved ones often tell you that your partner may not be right for you? As firm as your moral sun may be, emotions tend to be the giant, gray, storm clouds that block it, even though you know … [Read more...] about Cognitive Dissonance: What Is It Saying about your Relationship?
RED MEANS STOP We are all guilty of being in a rush, especially early in the morning. We are trying to get to where we are going and then of course, all of a sudden the traffic light turns red. At this point, it’s time to make a decision; either come to a revolting stop, slamming on the brakes … [Read more...] about The Reasons Behind Why We Run Red Lights
Traditionally, wedding ceremonies don’t take much longer than half an hour or so. There are always a lot of tears, beautiful words about love, and sometimes Biblical passages that will be read either before or after the vows. Typically there are passages about love (most notably 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,13) or about the roles of the husband and the wife (taken from Ephesians 5:21-29), and about how … [Read more...] about The Sacredness of Christian Wedding Vows
I’m a very religious person. I have been all my life. I was born into my religion, and I will die in it too. It shapes absolutely everything about me. It’s one of those religions that pretty much dictates my life, but I’m okay with that, because it’s making me a better person. I’m a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, but most people call me Mormon (if you’re looking for … [Read more...] about Selfishness: the Struggle for Christianity in 2014
The other day on Facebook, a reader learned that for my forthcoming book, called Chastity is for Lovers: Single, Happy, and (Still) a Virgin, the target audience is adults, and primarily young ones.* She suggested that in the future, I target teens instead. Another reader, who had asked if the book is fit for teens, suggested in jest that young adulthood is too late.If the goal is necessarily to … [Read more...] about Saving Sex: Why My Target Audience Isn't Teens