How to Know When You are Emotionally Ready for a Baby
Deciding whether or not to have a baby is huge. Bringing another life into the world comes with great responsibility. Just like buying your first home and getting married, having a baby can be sort of scary. You may feel you need to be prepared to your fullest.
As a mom, and someone who knows a lot of parents, I know that you will probably never be fully ready to have a baby. Raising a child is a learning process and that is okay, but how do you know that you are emotionally ready for a baby? How do you know that you want to take that next step now?
Gathered here are four foolproof signs that you are ready to have a baby.
1. You are in a stable relationship
This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be married, but you should be thinking long-term. (Unless you are purposely choosing to do this alone, which is completely ok too.) I had my son at an early age. I wasn’t married or even sure who I was as a person yet. I didn’t have the option of waiting until I was ready and found someone to plan a life together with. If you do imagine yourself raising your children with a significant other, though, then this is an important thing to consider. You don’t want to have a baby with someone you don’t see yourself with forever. Even if you separate, you still have to see this person for the next 18 years minimum.
2. You are where you want to be in your career
Your twenties are your prime time to figure out where you want to be in life. The question is: have you made it there? Having a baby while still trying to figure out things can be quite difficult, especially if you are still trying to get your degree. Trust me, I am currently going through this, it is challenging. By feeling confident in your career path, you’ll be able to focus more on your child.
3. You are financially stable
Now I am not saying you have to be rich, but being financially put together is important. Ask yourself these questions: do you pay your bills on time? Do you live on your own? Do you rely on your parents for financial support? Do you have any money put away in a savings account? Having a baby is an expensive ordeal. There are diapers, wipes, formula, food, clothes, and more. It is vital that you are at least financially stable before taking on the responsibility of a baby.
4. You are emotionally stable
This one may sound absurd, but it’s not really. Maybe there are some things in your life you haven’t addressed that you probably should. It is okay to ask for help when needed. You may be bottling up anger over a broken past or a tattered present. It is important to face these things now so that when you do have a baby you don’t pass on the negativity to your child. Once you have a child, you are their role model, and they base their actions and morals off of you.
If you are confident that you fit the four signs above then you are as ready as you are ever going to be for a baby. Best wishes! Having a baby is truly a blessing.